I offended someone yesterday, and she told me about it today. It was inadvertent, done without malice, and honestly - it was something that would not have offended 99.99% of the population.
But I did it. And it made her mad. Really, really mad. And I'm very, very sorry.
This is someone who has never liked me, and never made any bones about it. I don't know why, and it doesn't really matter. I've made a point of staying away from her when possible, and being unfailingly polite to her all other times.
I work with her. Thankfully, when she called me on the "incident" she did it with my manager right there.
I apologized. I tried to explain, but she wouldn't have any of it. I apologized again and again. She told me that she refused to accept my apology.
Later, my manager told me that maybe this person was having a bad day, because she was out of line. She told me that she'd talk to my coworker later.
This hasn't happened to me since 8th grade. But then it probably happened to pretty much all 8th grade girls, since 8th grade girls are a mess. It's just the way we were. Maybe they're more mature now, but it was a battleground in my middle school.
So, I'm going on vacation for a week. When I get back, I'll return to my former modus operandi (being polite, but avoiding if possible).
It's been over a year of side-stepping this person. I love my job, and I'm not leaving it.
I've been crying over this off and on all day.
Have you ever had anything like this happen? What did you do? How did you handle it?